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It's the new riddle of the Sphinx: “Why didn’t he call me back?” You have a great first date with a promising guy. You think it went well and expect to see him again… but then poof! He vanishes inexplicably. You sit around with your girlfriends and debate why he didn’t call you back. What happened in between “I’ll pick you up at 8pm” and “poof?” You speculate, you obsess, you rationalize, you justify. You want to know why. When your friends tell you, “It’s not you, it’s him,” you want to know if they’re trying to be nice or telling you the truth.

Guess what? There is someone who does know the truth about what really happened on your date. But it’s not you. It’s not your friends. And it’s certainly not your mother. It’s the guy you went out with. So I decided to ask him for you! In fact, I asked 1,000 “hims.” During the past ten years as a dating coach and matchmaker, I conducted “exit interviews” with 1,000 single guys to find out why you never heard from him again after a date, or after he flirted with you online or at a party. And I got some real answers. It turns out there are clear, consistent reasons why men show initial interest and then disappear. Sure, sometimes the issue is all his—who hasn’t gone out occasionally with a real jerk? But it turns out that many times we’re sending out signals we might not be aware of. And the good news is that most of these signals are easy to fine-tune.

Men essentially confessed that when they first meet you, they have several “female stereotypes” floating around in their mind. They quickly try to peg which stereotype you are and then look for evidence to back up their hunch. You know who you are deep down, but he doesn’t yet. So he will decide whether to call you again based on his perception of you, not the reality. In the early stage of dating, perception is reality. Here are three of the most common reasons men revealed why they aren’t calling women back (get the other 7 reasons - and what you can do about all of them - in my new book).

Reason #1: The Boss Lady
His perception: He’d rather hire you than date you. He perceives you as argumentative, controlling, overly independent, and not feminine or warm. While you think he’s intimidated by your success, he’s thinks you have a prickly attitude and imagines that snuggling with you is like hugging a porcupine in a pin-striped business suit!
Your reality: You’re confident, forthright and successful, but he can’t yet see those great qualities behind your tough demeanor. Try showing your warm, sensitive side first by talking about your adorable nephew or your volunteer work at the animal rescue shelter. And definitely change clothes after work into a flirty skirt instead of staying in that power business suit.

Reason #2: The Park Avenue Princess
His perception: You’re looking for a “Perfect 10”: the guy’s who’s a 5 on the looks scale with $5 million in the bank. He thinks you’re high maintenance, superficial, or a gold-digger.
Your reality:You can take care of yourself. You enjoy spending what you make. Maybe you’re interested in a nice lifestyle, though it’s not your only priority. But he’s jaded by all the gold-diggers he dated before you (you’re guilty until proven innocent). So instead of asking him “What’s your favorite hotel in St. Bart’s?” you should ask “What’s your favorite little neighborhood café?” When the waiter inquires whether you’d like tap or bottled, don’t order the Evian; one glass of city water (almost) never killed anyone! {Tip: squeeze a little lemon in your glass…}

Reason #3: The Sadie Hawkins
His perception: You’re pursuing him. You sent him a thank-you email after your date, and immediately he knew you liked him. He may even think you’re a little desperate. Deep down, he feels deflated because when he likes a woman, he’d rather do the chasing.
Your reality: That thank-you email was a show of good manners, not a subtle hint for him to ask you out again. At work you’re rewarded for taking initiative, but with guys you have to let them reach out first. Don’t say, “Let’s do this again sometime”—that’s his line. This is one time in your empowered, take-charge life when you have to sit back and wait after a first date—do absolutely nothing to follow-up (don’t even check to see if he’s logged into his online dating profile). He’s a big boy and knows how to contact you if he’s interested.
I truly believe it’s not that “good” guys don’t exist, but rather that simple (mis)perceptions—which can be easily tweaked once you’re aware of them—are standing in Cupid’s way. Which stereotype do you think men might be labeling you? There’s only one way to find out: learn how to conduct your own personal “exit interviews!” at

How typical is your Virgo when it comes to your relationship? Your Aquarius may promise you the world, but are you sure he ins’t making the same promise to another woman?Let’s divide men into 12 categories (every category refers to each of the zodiac signs), and let’s see how naughty your spouse could be if we believe what stars reveal.
If his sign is Aries: How does the story go? You are fascinated by him, he is fascinated by you. Everything seems to be perfect; you gave him your number easily than you expected, and you are waiting for his call. If he doesn’t call you, it means that another girl got his attention in the meantime.
Don’t blame him. Aries is not a “naughty sign” by nature. He’s just looking for romance; he is trying to find true love - if he thinks you are the one, he won’t give up on you. If you are Aries, Taurus or Leo, it’s more likely for him to believe that you are the one.
Contrarily, he is more likely to be unfaithful to a logical Libra, to an eccentric Aquarius or to a naughty Gemini, mostly because he thinks that they are free spirit who would never understand him.
 
If he is a Taurus: you never know when you are gonna fall in love with a Taurus. He could be a long time-friend and suddenly, one morning, you wake up and you love him.
Well, you are lucky if you are a Cancer with much love to give, a Capricorn that offers him all the safety he needs or a well-dressed Libra. In those cases he’ll honour your relationship.
On the other hand, he’ll be unfaithful to a woman that confuses him; yeah, Pisces, it’s you I am talking about!

If he is a Gemini: it’s a hard task to get a Gemini’s attention. If you don’t know the answer to how long Karl Marx’s beard was, or you can’t think of any of Dan Brown’s books, it’s not likely to make him like you. The manly version of Gemini prefers women that can always bring up an interesting topic for discussion.
So, if you are a Sagittarius that travels around the world or an Aquarius that wants to change it, he’ll stick with you.
He’ll be unfaithful in any other case!
 
If he is a Cancer: this man is quite special. Unlike most men, he doesn’t seek for as much female adventure as possible. He needs a companion. It’s really simple for him. He loves you. You love him. The end.
So, a Cancer will turn to a Pisces or a Cancer who will appreciate his way of thinking.
He is rarely unfaithful; but if he decides to cheat, he’ll most possibly cheat on a Taurus who doesn’t understand him and seems to bring him down to earth every time he dreams with his eyes open.

If he is a Leo: They say Leo is a conqueror. Well that is true, and in order to conquer your heart, he’ll make you believe that you are the centre of his world. That’s not true. In fact, the centre of his world is himself. The signs that can not only compromise with but also love the arrogant Leo are Cancer, Virgo and Pisces. Be sure he’ll love you back and he is gonna be always there for you trying to protect you!
He will be unfaithful to Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aries. No, he is not sick or bored of you; its just that you are as competitive as him and he can’t stand it!
 
If he is a Virgo: How to get his attention? Just don’t ever compliment yourself in front of him, unless you are already in love with his sarcastic smile. He’ll always have something negative to say about you - so act cool and he’ll be yours! Surprisingly, a Virgo is an unfaithful sign, although he may never actually cheat on you. As long as you are a Scorpio he’ll be faithful, because he won’t risk losing all the sensuality you brought in his life. But if you are a Libra, it’ll very difficult for you to take him out of his every day routine and therefore, he might be unfaithful to you.
 
Is a Scorpio more likely to cheat on you than a Pisces?
Let’s divide men into 12 categories

(every category refers to each of the zodiac signs), and let’s see how naughty your spouse could be if we believe what stars reveal.

If he is a Libra: Does he want you? Doesn’t he? This man could make you wonder forever. No, its not that you cant understand what’s going on around you. He just doesn’t know. He is not really sure about anything.
A Libra needs a determined woman to take charge. These women could be found among Leo and Aries; he’ll keep them for life.
However, a Libra can’t get along with jealousy. So, if you are a passionate Taurus or an acquisitive Aries, don’t be surprised if he cheats on you! He couldn’t even be with a dubious Capricorn either.

If he is a Scorpio: Is he really that passionate? And, even more, what does he seek? He claims to seek a deeper connection with his lovers, and that’s how you fell for him too.
The truth is that a Scorpio loves to experiment in sex. Are you ready for some play under the sheets? Then, he won’t need to be unfaithful to you. The signs that usually match with a Scorpio are Aquarius, Aries and Gemini.
On the other hand, if you are a shy Virgo or a workaholic Capricorn who prefers to stay late at night at her office doing her projects, don’t blame him if he doesn’t spend his nights alone.
 
If he is a Sagittarius: don’t be surprised if he takes you bungee jumping on your first date. He is interesting and unpredictable indeed!
He also loves to talk forever about anything, so a sophisticated Aquarius or an unstoppable Gemini would be perfect for him. It will also work if you are an assertive Aries, always ready to follow him.
A Sagittarius hates routine. Don’t make him believe that he has seen that play before. Steady Taurus, organized Virgo, be aware!

If he is a Capricorn: watch your mouth with him. I mean it! Not only he is a severe critic, but he can easily take offence at your words.
He’ll be faithful to you as long as you look glamorous, powerful and professional like Leo, Libra or Aries usually do.
But if you make him feel miserable because of your eccentricity (Aquarius knows what I am talking about) or simply because you can (any Virgo reading?) he’ll be “naughty” sooner than you think.

If he is an Aquarius: Who needs  action when you have words? A sophisticated sign indeed. He can make you do anything if you believe his promises but, in general, he’ll leave you sooner than you know. Unless you share his life philosophy; like a chit chat-lover Sagittarius or an open-minded kinky Gemini.
He won’t stay with you more than a month if you are a Cancer or a Libra who seek for love and affection.
Tip: try to let him believe he is free -even if that it’s just an illusion!

If he is a Pisces: he loves warm hugs so, give them to him; just don’t over do it! Avoid being a burden…just be there for him every time he needs you! He would be loyal to you as long as you are Taurus that will bring him back to earth whenever he needs to or a sexy Scorpio that can read between the lines. He might cheat on you though, if you are a little more selfish such a woman Leo or Aries could be.

Times when you could hear a romantic compliment like: “You have the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen,” the minute you step your foot in to a bar have long passed. Nowadays, men have difficulty expressing their feelings. It is very rare for a man to use words to show you that he likes you. However, we have a great weapon to understand if a guy likes us. It’s called body language. So, here are the first signs, or better say, erotic signals, that will help you understand that a man has fallen for you at first sight.

Signal 1: He raises an eyebrow. If his impulsive reaction when he first sees you is to raise abruptly his eyebrows, it means that you’ve got his attention! Congratulations!

Signal 2: He faintly opens his mouth. You can’t stop looking at him and finally he looks back at you. Have his lips moved? Maybe faintly opened? He might not resist to your charm no more!
 
Signal 3: He tries to get your attention: Does he believe that he is the center of the world? If he doesn’t, why does he act like he does? Don’t worry; if he starts overreacting, like talking louder, or trying to be really descriptive when he tells a story (interesting or not but who cares) he’s just trying to get your attention. So, he’s trying to make a difference. Finally, if he changes his seat to can see you better, you know you’ve got him!

Signal 4: He cares about his appearance. Guys are not like us. They don’t care how they look, especially when they are already outside, drinking beers with their buddies. So, if you catch him straightening his shirt or combing his hair with his fingers, it doesn’t mean he is weird, it means that he wants to look good for you.

Signal 5: He won’t stop staring at you. Don’t start feeling uncomfortable. His purpose isn’t to see if you have a few extra pounds on your hips; he wants to make sure you know he is interested in you.

Signal 6: He sits “offensively”. What does this mean? He slightly opens his legs (as much the opening of his shoulders). His puts his fingers in his belt and inclines his head towards you.

This is the last signal you can get from him before you can start impressing him with your marvelous self.
Ready? Fight! The games have just begun

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Put These on Your DO-NOT-Do List!
As women we're often brought up to believe we have to be perfect to find the man of our dreams. That's rubbish. I know because I was one of the women who strived for perfection for years. It didn't get me the man of my dreams. It did make me miserable though. I wasn't being myself.

Here's a list of things you shouldn't be doing in an effort to make a man fall in love with you:
Cater to his every need. There's a great chance that if you do this - cater to every whim of a man, he's going to stick around. But it's not because you are the woman for him, it's because you'll do anything he wants. NEVER cook a man dinner every night. NEVER do his laundry if you are dating. NEVER clean his apartment for him and NEVER run over to his place simply because he's feeling frisky.

Change your appearance for him. If you wear pink lipstick and the man you are dating says he prefers red, don't convert. If you do you are showing him that you are easily manipulated. Men like a woman with her own mind. Don't change who you are just because there's something about you he doesn't automatically like.

Act like his mother. Don't treat any man you are dating like a child. This means no calling him all the time. Don't ask him where he's been if you haven't heard from him in a while and never tell him to button up his coat if it's cold outside. He already has a mother, he doesn't want you to be one too.

Assume he knows what you want. Men can't read minds. Their minds also don't operate the same way yours does. If you expect a man to know what you want from him, you'll always be disappointed.
If you want to get a man to sit up and take notice of only you, you need to understand

how to become irresistible to him.

They say that if you are smart, beautiful, charming and most of all, if you believe in yourself, you can have any man you want. Then again, are these characteristics enough to keep him? If you are not sure about it either, here are 10 tricks that will help you to make him your dog…
 
• Make him jealous.
This is an old trick that never goes out of fashion. When you go out with him, be always well dressed; many other guys are going to be staring at you, for sure! Don’t be afraid to show your fabulous self off; talk to his friends and don’t hesitate to flirt with other men a bit.

• Sorry, I have plans.
Do not be always available for him. Show him that you have many other things going on in your life; he is not the center of your world. On the contrary, you have many friends to please and much work to do.
 
• Don’t answer all his phone calls
Even if you are home, let the phone ring for a while before answering it. Sure, you can make up some excuses to justify why you didn’t answer immediately. You can tell him that you were in the middle of something. If he just calls once and then he stops, don’t buck up to call him back. Let him wonder: “is she home? Is she out?” Sooner or later, he will call again.

• This woman is a mystery
Let him believe that. It’s true that men get more excited with mysterious women. And it’s easy for you to be one of them. Just don’t tell him much about your past; when he asks, answer him with the question: “are you always that curious?” Don’t bring him to your house from the first dates and don’t tell him what you do on Wednesday evenings (you may go to the beauty parlor but let him believe that you are an FBI agent).
 
• Don’t get mad at him no matter what
If you want him to think of you as an independent woman, act like one. Don’t demand anything from him. Don’t ask him where he goes and with who, if he doesn’t tell you first. Don’t get mad at him because he is late. This will spoil your image, and instead of keeping him, you will lose him.

• This weekend belongs to my girlfriends
Don’t forget that the most important people in your life are your friends. So, try to spend some weekends with them. This will remind him that his is not the center of your life plus you will have fun for sure. After all, you see him every day, but you haven’t gone out with your girlfriends in so long.

• I know everyone in town
Make him believe you are popular. This is easy. Take him to places to hang out regularly. Everybody will know you there; so, you will feel comfortable, you will feel famous and he will feel like he has gone out with a celebrity. Everybody wins!
 
• How gay is your gay friend?
It’s always helpful if you have a gay friend who makes your boyfriend believe that he might be bisexual. Tell your gay friend to drop hints about how great you look and how easily some one could fall in love with you. Reliable trick, always works!

• Compromise? No, thanks!
Do not say always yes to him. And do not compromise right away. It’s not only better for you to play hard to get, but there are some things you don’t want to give up for anybody, including him. So don’t.

• Want him to be your dog? Be his kitty!
This should be rule one. Men may like beautiful, powerful and independent women, but a coy smile will make them beg for you. Read Marilyn Monroe’s biography and start acting it out!

How To Make Him Fall In Love With You… Truths And

How To Make Him Fall In Love With You… Truths And Tricks
 
Be yourself!
The first rule to make him fall in love with you is to be yourself. If he will love you for something, let that be your special character and your extraordinary mind. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. Don’t do anything that isn’t you. He’ll find out that you are faking as soon as you’ll be tired of pretending to be his dream woman and start being yourself. What will happen then? He might not like what he sees; he’ll feel betrayed, and he’ll probably run from you. After all, you do have enough self respect to be loved for what you really are, don’t you?
 
Be confident!
Being yourself alone isn’t enough. You also have to believe in yourself. Many women remain single because of their low self-esteem. I once met a girl that wasn’t that pretty, but she claimed that she could have any man she wanted. She told me, “It doesn’t matter how you look, it matters what you think of yourself.” Later that night I met her boyfriend. They were on a long-term relationship and they seemed to be happy together. This woman was acting like she was wearing an invisible crown; and it was working.
Are you too shy and don’t know how to “promote” yourself? Here is a tip: think about what your good parts are. Do you have a great humor? Then use it! Guys appreciate humor as mush as girls do!
 
Do not overreact!
When you like someone and you want to make him like you too, it’s very easy to make a fool of yourself. Don’t be too loud or too invisible; don’t laugh for no reason, don’t say anything that pops into your head. That usually happens when you are too nervous about what he’ll think of you - there is no reason to be so stressed. Just relax, take a big breath and act like he is one of your friends.
 
Look gorgeous!
First impressions are always important. Not that personality and confidence don’t count, but looking gorgeous whenever he gets to see you, will make your life a lot easier. If you are one of those girls that can’t tell the difference between eyeliner and concealer, put your face’s fate in to your girlfriends’ hands (and makeup kits)!. She will make the best of the beauty God blessed you with!
 
Tricks:
Be friendly - Smile and compliment him
The first step to make a guy like you is to get close to him. Who can resist the company of a friendly and happy face?
Have you ever noticed that although men compliment us a lot, we don’t do the same? Make the difference. Tell him how handsome he looks. He won’t see it coming, plus, he’ll understand you are interested (keep in mind that most of the times, guys don’t have a clue that we may like them). Jean Giraudoux said about compliments: “When you see a woman who can go nowhere without a staff of admirers, it’s not so much because they think she is beautiful, but because she has told them they are handsome”.
 
 
Listen to the boys!
I don’t imply that all men are the same, or that all see the same way, but it’s always good to take some good advice from the boys. Ask your friends if their girlfriends said or did something they liked, or hated. When you learn about common mistakes girls do during dates or during a relationship, just try to avoid doing them!
Play hard-to-get!
This is an old trick that never goes out of fashion! Make him jealous;

don’t answer all his phone calls

, and don’t be always available for him. Hang out with other guys too - let him believe you have many admirers. Men are competitive by nature, so he’ll fight for your attention. As soon as he does, he’ll start wondering: “Why am I jealous? Am I so interested in this girl?” You’ll know you have won his heart…
 
Play on your turf!
Invite him over to your place for a cup of coffee or a movie. You will feel very comfortable if you meet at your house. There are many things you can do
if you stay indoors

. What’s more, you can invite him to hang out with your friends. They are the people that know how to make you look even cooler than he already thinks you are! They are always in the mood to say something nice or tell some awesome stories about you.
 
 
Find out about him.
To get into his heart, you have to get into his mind first. Find out what he’s made of. Ask people that know him to discover what he likes and dislikes. Do you have something in common? Maybe you listen to the same music, or you both like to play chess. Take advantage of the information you’ve got. Challenge him in to a game of chess or start a conversation about the bands you both enjoy.
Let me tell you a brief story to justify why ‘having things in common’ is so important. I was out the other day when I overheard 3 guys in their 20’s. One of them was saying, “I met this really cool girl I think I really like. She drinks Red Bull too!” The others seemed to agree with him. I stopped and stared at them before I burst out laughing. Excuse me? What does drinking Red Bull have to do with anything? Funny as it is, every detail counts!
 
Get to know his friends!
To win his heart, try to win his friends first. For men, friendship is very important. Take it for granted that he trusts his friends’ opinions, and he faithfully follows their advice. If there is someone that can influence him, it will be his friends. So, the sooner you get to know them and the more they like you, the more possible it is to be with him!

How to Make Him Fall in Love and Stay in Love

How to Make Him Fall in Love and Stay in Love
 
As most women know, it's not difficult to attract a man - to make him think he's in love with you. It's a little more complicated, however, to make him fall in love for keeps. It's easy to wonder if men are even interested in long-term relationships since most of them seem to move easily from one to another. The answer is, most men are interested - it's just up to the right women to make them realize it.
 
It's not just your appearance that counts.
While it's true that a revealing outfit, a sexy look and a provocative walk will invariably attract a guy's attention, it takes more than that to keep him interested. Many women make the mistake of thinking that it is looks alone that make a man fall in love. It's certainly enough to attract him, but falling in love is a different matter.
You already know that no matter how good-looking a guy is, he has to have more to offer than just good looks to keep your interest. Why should it be any different for a man?
 
Set yourself apart
Charm him by being different from most of the women he meets. Instead of being needy and overly sensitive as many women are, present yourself as confident, independent and easygoing. Keep a little mystery going - let him discover something new about you almost every time you see each other. It won't be long before he eagerly looks forward to your every meeting.
 
Explore your common interests
After the initial attraction, you'll need to find ways to form an emotional bond with him. Find out what you have in common. Discuss the things that you both enjoy. Learn what he really cares about and what his most compelling interests are and share those with him. It takes time, but it's only by delving into each other's deeper selves that you'll establish a true emotional connection.
By paying attention to this advice, you'll find that it won't be long before you're able to make him fall in love with you. And more than likely it will be for keeps.
 

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You

How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You
 
Avoid getting angry at him for stupid stuff, like hitting you with a ball or teasing you, when he means well. If he hurts you physically or emotionally, then it's okay to be angry.

Compliment him. Guys love this!
Above all, if the guy doesn't love you for your personality, then he is NOT really in love with you!

Never keep hanging on to him when he isn't interested. Men find it annoying when you show up at their house and just won't leave.

Learn to take a hint. If the man starts doing something different while you are talking to him, shut up. Wait until he starts talking to you again or quietly help him with what he's doing. Don't try to force his attention to you.

Don't put him in a compromising position. Men care about how you feel, even if they are not interested in you romantically. Don't force them to answer a question if they look uncomfortable with it.

Be very patient. Men sometimes like more than one girl at a time. (If this is the case then he is not ready for a relationship and should therefore be put in the friend category. Fun to hang around with, but not deserving of the cookies.)

Don't appear/be too easy, and yet don't be stuck-up and snobbish. A man doesn't want to think he's never getting any sex, but he also doesn't want to get it that easy. Guys like a challenge.

Do not get between him and his friends. A man will always put his mates before you, unfortunately you need to accept this, or his friends might think of a way to get rid of you.

Don't say you love him if you don't really mean it, they might become obsessive. Also, don't say those three little words until you reckon he loves you too.

Don't EVER cheat. If he loves you and you don't love him, tell him that in a calm and caring manner. People get hurt when a man's ego gets smacked down.

Be what he needs. Be sure to have that something he cannot live without, you don't have to be pretty to be precious.
Don't put on too much make-up. Xmas trees are not hot. Natural is the best.

Don't get an attitude when you see something on T.V. In fact, don't pull an attitude for any dumb reason. Men think you are immature if you have an attitude.

Respect him if he respects you. Do not shoot down everything he says if he listens to every word you say. This is pretty much both ways.

Don't get mad if he says your sports team is s**t. You will always be more important than sports.
Don't be the jealous girl. Guys hate it and it makes you look like you aren't secure with yourself.

Blush. Or pretend to. It's been scientifically proven that girls who blush when looked at make men fall in love with them.

Don't make him feel worthless by ranting on and on about your exes. If you say what you dislike in your exes, he might be put off, as most men have the same faults, like leaving the toilet seat up or biting their nails.
 
 
Warnings
Don't look like a stalker! Therefore, only tell a few close friends you've been on his social networking site, or better yet, none at all.

Don't change your style too abruptly. It's never good to go from brunette Girl-Next-Door to a total blonde Glamazon. You'll look fake or like a poser.

Be cautious how heavy you are when allowing him to cheer you up (Step 6). For example pregnancy or a stalker ex isn't particularly attractive. Keep it real by complaining about homework or a poorly pet. Guys don't like commitment issues.

Don't be manipulative or use him to make someone jealous. These can backfire very easily.

Don't pretend like everything is okay if it's not. If he really is your man, he'll help you through it. He will understand that you have your bad days, and you need him to help you get through them.