'ABOUT LOVE 영어연애글'에 해당되는 글 13건

There's an old joke about a wife who nags her husband, "Tell me how you feel." Finally, the husband blurts, "I feel...I feel...like watching television."
The awful truth is, most men have no idea how they feel at any given time. Studies show that men use language to establish difference, separateness and independence (exactly the opposite of women, who talk to connect). So demanding that he talk to you is guaranteed to make him squirm and start rambling about whether new Cheerios really are improved.
Here are the answers and explanations to his biggest verbal 'Huhs?' (you'll be speaking like a native in no time). Take the cues from the following sections, so that you and your man can finally understand each other

What He Says When You're Dating
An at-a-glance guide to his love talk:
A slew of research has established that men and women use language in different ways. For women, talk is the glue that holds relationships together. To men, conversation is a means, not an end. They don't even like talking to each other that much -- two guys can watch a game in silence for four hours and walk away feeling they've bonded. When men do use words, it's primarily doublespeak to stay on top. Here's how to make sense of the favorite phrases he uses for different stages of your union:

When You're Dating
He says: So maybe we could get together or something?
He means: I think you're really hot and want to ask you out, but I'm too chicken to say so

He says: Nothing about seeing you again
He means: His mojo wasn't rising

He says: You're a really good person
He means: You'll never see him again

He says: Let's be friends
He means: You're not my type, but could you set me up with your hot friend?

He says: I'll call you
He means: I really mean to call but I'm scared you'll say yes, we'll go out and it will be a letdown. Or worse, what if it's not? Do I want to go through all the hassle of dating? Get married? Have kids? Aaahhhh!

He says: We're dating
He means: We've spent at least five nights together, at least one of which has ended in sexual contact. But in no way are we exclusive

He says: We're seeing each other
He means: It's down to you and one other woman

He says: I think we should date exclusively
He means: I'm scared that if I don't make things more permanent, you'll date someone else


What He Says When He Wants Sex:
He says: This is our third date, isn't it?
He says: Is it warm out or just me?
He says: What time do you go to work in the morning?
He says: You think it's true what they say about oysters?
He means: I WANT SEX

He says (in the middle of a great orgasm): I love you
He means: I love that incredible thing you are doing with your finger/tongue/body right now

He says (immediately after making love): It'll be great to show you the house I grew up in (or anything else that smacks of the future)
He means: Are you thinking about your ex and how much better he was than me?

He says: We haven't spoken for ages and I've been thinking about you
He means: I haven't gotten laid in almost three months

He says: I'm not looking to get serious
He means: I just want a little nookie

He says: How many guys have you been with?
He means: I'm the best, right?

What He Says When He's Serious:
He says: I really like you
He means: I think I am falling in love but if I say that word, there is no going back

He says (in the middle of a date): It'll be great to show you the house I grew up in (or anything else that smacks of the future)
He means: See Above

He says: "Girlfriend" and he's not doing a Ru Paul imitation
He means: You've made him breakfast, he fixed your car and his buddies aren't allowed to come on to you

He says: Nothing's wrong. I'm fine
He means: God, I know you want to talk about my day and all my interrelationships with my colleagues and boss and the guy who drives my bus, but I am at home now and I just want to drink 10 beers, eat a bag of chips for dinner and zone out

He says: Maybe we need to slow down
He means: Maybe you need to slow down

He says: I don't know what I want
He means: I don't want you

He says: I need some space
He means: I'm about this close to dumping you but I haven't worked up the nerve yet

He says: You're an amazing woman
He means: You're an amazing woman

He says: I love you
He means: You make me incredibly happy whenever we are together. I think you may be The One.

What He Hears When You Speak:
Men don't always hear everything you're saying, which means he's not always getting your message:
You say (after being introduced): Do you know this band?
He hears: I want you now

You say: What do you do?
He hears: Are you making enough money to make you marriage material?

You say: My ex is a crazy stalker who won't stop calling me. He scares me
He hears: I'm still in love with my ex

You say: What are we doing Saturday night?
He hears: I want all your time for the rest of your life

You say (after making love): That was really nice
He hears: That was the best sex of my life. Let's do it again!

Learning to Talk Just Like Him
How to talk to a man so he understands you:
Men can only take directions one at a time. So, if you want him to go into the kitchen and get you a cup of tea, make it a two-part request (this also applies to when you are in bed with him).
When men bother to use words, it's to inspire action (whereas women communicate to bond). So if a guy insults another guy, he automatically thinks he wants to fight. And if you say you like his shirt, he thinks, "Cool -- she wants to jump my bones!"
University of Houston psychologists investigating why men keep things bottled up found it was to maintain power in a relationship

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when they don't talk, their partner is left guessing. You do the same and he'll be putty in your hands.
Men don't want to talk about the relationship. They just want to do it (in his mind, if he didn't love you, he'd leave). Here's how he thinks: "If we need to talk about the relationship, it must be broken. If it's broken, it means it's doomed. I'm outta here."
A man will say, "I'm fine," even when being tortured by Zulu warriors. It's in his nature not to reveal weakness because that betrays vulnerability, which comes off as lack of status, according to research by evolutionary psychologist David Buss. In short, he's worried you'll think he's a weed if he can't solve his problems without his Superwoman girlfriend coming to his aid.

How to Know He Loves You
There are certain words his tongue seems to trip over -- like "girlfriend," "love" and "
commitment

." But since men are action-driven, it's really more important what he does than what he says.You know your man really loves you if he:
Lets you drive his car (especially his new SUV)
Assumes you're spending the weekend together
Introduces you to his friends
Stops wearing his "If you're not wasted, the day is" T-shirt, because he knows you hate it
Calls for absolutely no reason
Wants to talk after sex

Things He Never Wants to Hear
Here's what he really doesn't want to hear from you (and probably won't hear anyway):
Honey, we have to talk. No, YOU have to talk -- and talk and talk and talk
What are you thinking about?: His feelings, like his answers, will be simple. So if you are lying in postcoital comfort and he answers, "Pizza," he really means he is thinking about pizza and not that you have skin that resembles pizza or you look like you've eaten one too many pies in your life
Do you think that girl is pretty?: He thinks that if he even hesitates to say no, it will kill his chances of sex that night -- or any other night
I want to get married: He already assumes this is what you want, he just doesn't want to hear it. So you only have to notify him if this is NOT the case
How do I look -- honestly?: Honestly, you look wonderful to him. That's why he's with you
Excerpted from
Over 100 Things Women Should Know about Men

1. She makes you want to be a better man
Stop making that face... any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn't have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so.

It could be love

.
 
2. She loves you
If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who
doesn't try to change you

is hard to find. Of course, all women have their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these.
Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn't seem to faze her either way, and she doesn't really seem to care about what you have to say, she's either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there's no denying that she loves you.
3. She gets along with friends and family
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad's stories and hang out with your friends, but she will enjoy it. She'll make a real effort to
get to know and love the most important people

in your life. And she won't try to get you to ditch your best buds.
She'll actually empathize with your brother's getting dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won't roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she'll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).
 
4. She's nagless
There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and
chooses her battles wisely

. She knows when to speak up and when to let it slide. You don't want a girlfriend who will give you hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally.
However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you're setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide — not even a great girlfriend.
5. She lets you be a man
Do not — I repeat — do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend
lets you be a guy

in all your glory, poker night and all. If she's a great girlfriend, she'll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches.
She has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn't deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn't expect you to give up the guys for her.
 
6. She respects you
This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn't necessarily agree with what you're saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape or form.
A great girlfriend won't ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. If she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing

 
7. She's beautiful
I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. She should always look her best and be well put together — matching
lingerie

is a definite plus.
You have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light. And this doesn't mean that she has to be a Heidi Klum clone. Remember that beauty is in
the eye of the beholder

, so if you think her full bottom or uncontrollable curls are beautiful, you're allowed.
 
8. She's sexual
While we're on the topic, a great girlfriend has to be
sexually compatible

with you. For instance, if you're into S&M and she's more the "fluffy lingerie" type, that's a problem. The two of you have to be on the same page — or, at least, she has to be willing to wear leather and use a whip from time to time.
Of course, this doesn't imply that she has to know all the right moves straight away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction toward each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each other in the bedroom, or on top of the dryer — whatever the case may be.
9. She's intelligent
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. Instead of being the one in total control, you'll find yourself trying to figure out what she's really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers — or if she's actually thinking at all.
An
intelligent woman will constantly surprise

you and keep you on your toes. She won't let you get bored of her. Besides, it's nice to have something to talk about between all that chandelier-hanging sex.
 
10. She's independent
No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while, like if she's had a rough day at work, it's great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can't seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you're suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit.
On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet , both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you; while still missing you, of course then she must be a great girlfriend  

These are common questions that women oftentimes find themselves asking when they are in a relationship. Men are not very expressive with their own feelings ?usually out of fear of losing their strong, masculine image. Moreover, it seems that they are scared of blurting out those three little words that we women seem to want to hear all the time.
But it is certainly something that we women need to know. So, just how can we find out if the man we are seeing is in love with us? Here are five sure signs that a man is in love with a woman.
 
1. He always wants to spend time with her. When a man is in love with a woman, he would move heaven and earth to spend time with her. He would show up at her office at noontime to take her out to lunch. He would make plans for a weekend activity that would include only her. He would show up at her doorstep at midnight just because he could not sleep and he felt like seeing her. He would make up all sorts of excuses just to be with her.

2. She is always in his mind. A woman would not be able to read a mans mind, but it is certainly obvious if she is in her mans mind. He always calls her to see if she is doing okay. He would send her silly text messages about nothing in particular. When calling and text messaging is not possible, he would send her emails or even postcards.

3. He cannot seem to stop touching her. A man in love often could not bear to not touch the woman he loves. This does not exclusively mean that he wants to do nothing else but sleep with her. It is more like he could not keep himself from touching her arm, touching her hair, putting an arm around her shoulders, placing his hand on her knee, and most of all, sitting close to her. The fact that the woman he loves is near enough to touch is important to them.

4. He introduces her to his friends and his family. A huge sign that a man is in love with a woman is if he introduces
her to his buddies and to his family, especially his parents. It shows that he is including her in his life, that he wants it very much for her to be a part of it.

5. He often talks about the future. The last sign that would tell a woman that a man is in love with her is when he openly talks about his plans for the future with her. This is most true when the plans he talks about include marriage and raising a family. This is probably the strongest sign that a man is in love with a woman.
If a woman is ever in doubt about whether or not her man is in love with her, all she ever needs to do is to look out for these five signs. If he shows these signs and they are all directed towards her, then he is definitely in love with her.

You've heard that nice guys finish last, but what about nice girls? In this excerpt from her book

Why Men Marry Bitches

, author Sherry Argov reveals why men actually prefer a confident, secure woman (Argov's definition of the word bitch) to one who lets her man take the reins in a relationship. She surveyed
real men

, who spilled exactly what makes or breaks their opinion of the women they meet — and it turns out that having your own life, making your own plans and not letting him win all the time only makes you more attractive. So who says being a "bitch" is a bad thing? Not these guys! Here's what they had to say:
"The worst thing a woman can do is see a guy every night of the week. That's how she becomes his good-time girl on his 'reserve list.' What will happen is, the guy will start coming over at nine o'clock and then he'll leave by ten-thirty. If he gets access or what he wants from her anytime he wants it, he won't have to lift a finger to keep it going."
"
Men are competitive

. When he buys a car that is a limited-edition model, he feels like he has something special. Guys in the street who race cars usually race for pink slips, because they want to win, conquer and take the other vehicle. That carries over to women. A woman who is easy won't scratch his competitive itch. When she stops expressing her opinion and starts agreeing with everything he says, that's usually when a man starts to feel bored."
"A woman should never go looking for him or chase him down at three different places where he said he might be having a drink. If he says, 'Either I'll be at the Cheesecake Factory or some bar on 26th,' don't try to track him down. If you want to be his 'steady,' let him come track you down."
"My fiancée was the first woman to put me in my place. She constantly reminds me, 'Hey, nobody's forcing you to stay.' If I tried to BS my way out of a situation, she'd say, 'Let me save you the time and energy. Don't give me that s**t, because I ain't buying it.' I know if
she caught me cheating

she'd smack me over the head with a frying pan. And I respect her more than any woman I've ever known."
"If he can sum you up in one sentence, he'll be bored."
"Confidence is when you don't try to interpret or overly process everything that you are observing out loud. It prevents the relationship from progressing on a normal course. For example, every time I gave this woman flowers, she would remind me that her ex stopped bringing her flowers. What she really wanted to ask was whether I'd keep doing it in the future. That made me feel like she didn't really enjoy the flowers or appreciate the present moment with me."
"A woman shouldn't say, 'You don't call me enough,' or, 'You never tell me you love me.' As a woman, your best asset is to be unpredictable. He should never be
able to figure you out

. When he can always predict what you are going to do next, you've lost him as a long-term partner. He'll look for someone else whom he can't understand or control."
"If she feels strongly about something, she'll have a backbone. This woman is the woman he respects. Not a 'melba toast' cracker that crumbles with very little pressure."
"You have to seem like you aren't giving yourself fully. 'Here I am. Take me.' Men want to be kept guessing. Think about it. When a guy picks out a movie, he wants to be on the edge of his seat from the very beginning. If someone doesn't lose a limb or get shot and buildings aren't blown up all within the first 20 minutes, he'll think he got cheated out of 20 bucks."
"A woman shouldn't even crack a joke about marriage. I was on a second date with a girl, and we are both from Ireland. Back home we have a saying, 'If you kiss me you are going to have to marry me.' If you have the desire to get married, never let a man know that up front. If you do, it's the same as handing him a manual and telling him exactly how to dangle a carrot and play on your weaknesses."

He's just so into you

Statistics say men lie five times more often than women. (Now ask yourself, is that true, or did I just make it up?) Despite human progress and enlightened times, we're still slaves to our genes.
Males are hardwired to impress women. Especially if it a woman he adores and really really likes. I have my experiences on this counter too. I have been a girl to see, observe and learn with whatever signs have been given. I take first impressions seriously like men and hence if he likes me, he'll show it instantly and not make me wonder for a whole year as to what is going on in his head. Really.
If a guy likes a woman, he goes out of his way to let her know how much she means to her. It is just the most important thing for him. He may not use words, but actions he has ample. Which is what I'll elaborate on next.
Thanks to Errant I am now doing a positive post on men. Surely you owe me one because I prefer bashing you more than singing to your tunes :P
Do I sound arrogant? Nopes that I don't, I am confident that I know what a man means when he acts in a certain way or says certain somethings.

Presenting to you a tag which is a flip side of "He's Just Not That Into You"... He is Just SO INTO YOU!

1. When a man is into you, he will actively take interest in you and your life and your routine and everything else about you. I find it a little pissing off because I am not always in a mood to answer but then that is their wayto get up close. To find out everything and anything and hear what we have to say if they like us. Men who don't like us will simply change subjects and make you wonder what crap did you utter that ticked the channel of the conversation.

2. When a man is into you, he will seldom make you wonder. He is never going to be a bitch, at least for the beginning many years. I don't count quarrels in this because that happens between people. He's not just nodding when you speak, he is actively giving you his input. He will not check his watch to make you watch that you are such a drag.
There's eye contact. He's actively listening. He's asking questions, relating things you say to his own experiences. Interested men even remember what you said and when you said it.

3. When a man is into you, he's open about himself. As much as he wants to know about you, he tells you about himself. He'll share personal details about himself. If he isn't giving information about his contact, where he works, where he lives, he is just having a good time with you.

4. If he's decided he wants you as his female, he won't want to lose you and hence he will behave in a way that is arousing to you. He will ask you what interests you and like you will be willing to adopt that interest just to please your man, he is likely to do the same. If there's any chance that you might be snapped up by another male, he'll stake his claim. He'll be tactile with you, slipping an arm around you, possibly posturing and standing up when another guy walks onto the scene. He will find all situations perfect to close up on you. Notice his square shoulders narrowing while you two sit and chat? Well that is a sign, he is comfortable around you.

5. When a man is into you, he calls you often and he calls you back. Despite the stereotype, he will call you back. If you're getting calls for no reason, that's a good thing. If he’s calling, texting, and making plans with you, he is into you. Somethings are old school and no matter how insane it sounds to independent women, this is just the way. He will have to take the first step.

6. When a man is into you, he'll check you out and notice everything about you, while you have no idea at all. Yes if he is at all into you, when you two depart from a date, he will text you and tell you something about your hair or lips or earrings that will sweep you off balance. You cannot catch this spy drooling all over you with his eyes. He'll talk to your friends to know more about you and hang around you while you are with them just to bond well with you.

7. When a man is into you, he wants to know more about you -- your past, your present, your likes and dislikes, water hazards, etc. He's doing his homework because he wants to impress you. He's gathering this intelligence so he knows how best to woo you.

8. When a man is into you, he's always planning ahead. If he digs you, he won't want you getting away from him. To make sure you aren't prey to some other guy, he'll make plans for you to meet his family. Every day he will squeeze you in just so you don't flee from him. Yes he knows his woman well. Until he can't have his ring on her finger, there is no way he will take anything easy.

9. When a man is into you,he will take time out from the busiest if his schedules. There is no such thing as "I am busy today, can we do this tomorrow?" Yes this interested man will bring you flowers without a reason, shower you with gifts and always be willing to be at your side even if it means he'll be screamed at by his boss later. Some say if he lies for you, he will lie to you. I don't buy that. I think if he lies for the woman he loves, he will always be more honest to her. He won't keep anything from her. Even the fact that he will get hell for being late to work because he took the shorter route to meet her first on his way to work. Yes he relies on the woman he likes.

10. When a man is into you, he'll cancel his buddies plan to be with you. It is a love act. He will not hide from them, but actually take you around some public place just to show to the world what a woman he is with. If he doesn't like you there are a zillion reasons he can feed you, but if he is into you, he will just not be able to find enough reasons, moments and times to be with you, talk to you, call you, text you, watch movies with you, have conversations about nothing with you.

Remember girls, if he likes you, he will go out of his way to show that he is available for you all the time. No matter how much things change later when you end up marrying someone like that but that is the works, that doesn't mean he loves you less, just that now he knows that he has you and can have you more when he gets home from his daily duties. Don't bug him too much. When a man likes you, no matter how busy he is, if you ask for his help or just want to be with him, he would find possible ways to be with you.

Now ask yourself...
Does he compliment you often?
Does he call you soon after you two have met?
Does he ask you when you will meet up next?
Does he keeps trying to get you to stay longer with him?
Does his eyes always make contact with you?
Does his shoulders curve in when he is talking to you?
Has he tried to close in the distance?
Does he talk in whispers with you?
Does he flirt back when you flirt with him?
If you catch him looking at you does he start looking at the ground or the ceiling?
Does he always pay the bill at the restaurant?
Does he have a problem while talking to his friends in your presence?
Is he comfortable on the phone in your presence?
Do you get late night calls from him, just because nothing, he just felt like calling and talking to you?
Yes some of the above signs could lead to him playing you, but most of the time it is his interest in you that gets him to act crazy around you.
P.S. Just because you know that he is into you, just don't give in to easy and be a mushy baboon. Play hard to get because something about their genes, wants them to play catch. The harder the catch the better chances of your survival.Keep a man guessing ;)

It's the new riddle of the Sphinx: “Why didn’t he call me back?” You have a great first date with a promising guy. You think it went well and expect to see him again… but then poof! He vanishes inexplicably. You sit around with your girlfriends and debate why he didn’t call you back. What happened in between “I’ll pick you up at 8pm” and “poof?” You speculate, you obsess, you rationalize, you justify. You want to know why. When your friends tell you, “It’s not you, it’s him,” you want to know if they’re trying to be nice or telling you the truth.

Guess what? There is someone who does know the truth about what really happened on your date. But it’s not you. It’s not your friends. And it’s certainly not your mother. It’s the guy you went out with. So I decided to ask him for you! In fact, I asked 1,000 “hims.” During the past ten years as a dating coach and matchmaker, I conducted “exit interviews” with 1,000 single guys to find out why you never heard from him again after a date, or after he flirted with you online or at a party. And I got some real answers. It turns out there are clear, consistent reasons why men show initial interest and then disappear. Sure, sometimes the issue is all his—who hasn’t gone out occasionally with a real jerk? But it turns out that many times we’re sending out signals we might not be aware of. And the good news is that most of these signals are easy to fine-tune.

Men essentially confessed that when they first meet you, they have several “female stereotypes” floating around in their mind. They quickly try to peg which stereotype you are and then look for evidence to back up their hunch. You know who you are deep down, but he doesn’t yet. So he will decide whether to call you again based on his perception of you, not the reality. In the early stage of dating, perception is reality. Here are three of the most common reasons men revealed why they aren’t calling women back (get the other 7 reasons - and what you can do about all of them - in my new book).

Reason #1: The Boss Lady
His perception: He’d rather hire you than date you. He perceives you as argumentative, controlling, overly independent, and not feminine or warm. While you think he’s intimidated by your success, he’s thinks you have a prickly attitude and imagines that snuggling with you is like hugging a porcupine in a pin-striped business suit!
Your reality: You’re confident, forthright and successful, but he can’t yet see those great qualities behind your tough demeanor. Try showing your warm, sensitive side first by talking about your adorable nephew or your volunteer work at the animal rescue shelter. And definitely change clothes after work into a flirty skirt instead of staying in that power business suit.

Reason #2: The Park Avenue Princess
His perception: You’re looking for a “Perfect 10”: the guy’s who’s a 5 on the looks scale with $5 million in the bank. He thinks you’re high maintenance, superficial, or a gold-digger.
Your reality:You can take care of yourself. You enjoy spending what you make. Maybe you’re interested in a nice lifestyle, though it’s not your only priority. But he’s jaded by all the gold-diggers he dated before you (you’re guilty until proven innocent). So instead of asking him “What’s your favorite hotel in St. Bart’s?” you should ask “What’s your favorite little neighborhood café?” When the waiter inquires whether you’d like tap or bottled, don’t order the Evian; one glass of city water (almost) never killed anyone! {Tip: squeeze a little lemon in your glass…}

Reason #3: The Sadie Hawkins
His perception: You’re pursuing him. You sent him a thank-you email after your date, and immediately he knew you liked him. He may even think you’re a little desperate. Deep down, he feels deflated because when he likes a woman, he’d rather do the chasing.
Your reality: That thank-you email was a show of good manners, not a subtle hint for him to ask you out again. At work you’re rewarded for taking initiative, but with guys you have to let them reach out first. Don’t say, “Let’s do this again sometime”—that’s his line. This is one time in your empowered, take-charge life when you have to sit back and wait after a first date—do absolutely nothing to follow-up (don’t even check to see if he’s logged into his online dating profile). He’s a big boy and knows how to contact you if he’s interested.
I truly believe it’s not that “good” guys don’t exist, but rather that simple (mis)perceptions—which can be easily tweaked once you’re aware of them—are standing in Cupid’s way. Which stereotype do you think men might be labeling you? There’s only one way to find out: learn how to conduct your own personal “exit interviews!” at

How typical is your Virgo when it comes to your relationship? Your Aquarius may promise you the world, but are you sure he ins’t making the same promise to another woman?Let’s divide men into 12 categories (every category refers to each of the zodiac signs), and let’s see how naughty your spouse could be if we believe what stars reveal.
If his sign is Aries: How does the story go? You are fascinated by him, he is fascinated by you. Everything seems to be perfect; you gave him your number easily than you expected, and you are waiting for his call. If he doesn’t call you, it means that another girl got his attention in the meantime.
Don’t blame him. Aries is not a “naughty sign” by nature. He’s just looking for romance; he is trying to find true love - if he thinks you are the one, he won’t give up on you. If you are Aries, Taurus or Leo, it’s more likely for him to believe that you are the one.
Contrarily, he is more likely to be unfaithful to a logical Libra, to an eccentric Aquarius or to a naughty Gemini, mostly because he thinks that they are free spirit who would never understand him.
 
If he is a Taurus: you never know when you are gonna fall in love with a Taurus. He could be a long time-friend and suddenly, one morning, you wake up and you love him.
Well, you are lucky if you are a Cancer with much love to give, a Capricorn that offers him all the safety he needs or a well-dressed Libra. In those cases he’ll honour your relationship.
On the other hand, he’ll be unfaithful to a woman that confuses him; yeah, Pisces, it’s you I am talking about!

If he is a Gemini: it’s a hard task to get a Gemini’s attention. If you don’t know the answer to how long Karl Marx’s beard was, or you can’t think of any of Dan Brown’s books, it’s not likely to make him like you. The manly version of Gemini prefers women that can always bring up an interesting topic for discussion.
So, if you are a Sagittarius that travels around the world or an Aquarius that wants to change it, he’ll stick with you.
He’ll be unfaithful in any other case!
 
If he is a Cancer: this man is quite special. Unlike most men, he doesn’t seek for as much female adventure as possible. He needs a companion. It’s really simple for him. He loves you. You love him. The end.
So, a Cancer will turn to a Pisces or a Cancer who will appreciate his way of thinking.
He is rarely unfaithful; but if he decides to cheat, he’ll most possibly cheat on a Taurus who doesn’t understand him and seems to bring him down to earth every time he dreams with his eyes open.

If he is a Leo: They say Leo is a conqueror. Well that is true, and in order to conquer your heart, he’ll make you believe that you are the centre of his world. That’s not true. In fact, the centre of his world is himself. The signs that can not only compromise with but also love the arrogant Leo are Cancer, Virgo and Pisces. Be sure he’ll love you back and he is gonna be always there for you trying to protect you!
He will be unfaithful to Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aries. No, he is not sick or bored of you; its just that you are as competitive as him and he can’t stand it!
 
If he is a Virgo: How to get his attention? Just don’t ever compliment yourself in front of him, unless you are already in love with his sarcastic smile. He’ll always have something negative to say about you - so act cool and he’ll be yours! Surprisingly, a Virgo is an unfaithful sign, although he may never actually cheat on you. As long as you are a Scorpio he’ll be faithful, because he won’t risk losing all the sensuality you brought in his life. But if you are a Libra, it’ll very difficult for you to take him out of his every day routine and therefore, he might be unfaithful to you.
 
Is a Scorpio more likely to cheat on you than a Pisces?
Let’s divide men into 12 categories

(every category refers to each of the zodiac signs), and let’s see how naughty your spouse could be if we believe what stars reveal.

If he is a Libra: Does he want you? Doesn’t he? This man could make you wonder forever. No, its not that you cant understand what’s going on around you. He just doesn’t know. He is not really sure about anything.
A Libra needs a determined woman to take charge. These women could be found among Leo and Aries; he’ll keep them for life.
However, a Libra can’t get along with jealousy. So, if you are a passionate Taurus or an acquisitive Aries, don’t be surprised if he cheats on you! He couldn’t even be with a dubious Capricorn either.

If he is a Scorpio: Is he really that passionate? And, even more, what does he seek? He claims to seek a deeper connection with his lovers, and that’s how you fell for him too.
The truth is that a Scorpio loves to experiment in sex. Are you ready for some play under the sheets? Then, he won’t need to be unfaithful to you. The signs that usually match with a Scorpio are Aquarius, Aries and Gemini.
On the other hand, if you are a shy Virgo or a workaholic Capricorn who prefers to stay late at night at her office doing her projects, don’t blame him if he doesn’t spend his nights alone.
 
If he is a Sagittarius: don’t be surprised if he takes you bungee jumping on your first date. He is interesting and unpredictable indeed!
He also loves to talk forever about anything, so a sophisticated Aquarius or an unstoppable Gemini would be perfect for him. It will also work if you are an assertive Aries, always ready to follow him.
A Sagittarius hates routine. Don’t make him believe that he has seen that play before. Steady Taurus, organized Virgo, be aware!

If he is a Capricorn: watch your mouth with him. I mean it! Not only he is a severe critic, but he can easily take offence at your words.
He’ll be faithful to you as long as you look glamorous, powerful and professional like Leo, Libra or Aries usually do.
But if you make him feel miserable because of your eccentricity (Aquarius knows what I am talking about) or simply because you can (any Virgo reading?) he’ll be “naughty” sooner than you think.

If he is an Aquarius: Who needs  action when you have words? A sophisticated sign indeed. He can make you do anything if you believe his promises but, in general, he’ll leave you sooner than you know. Unless you share his life philosophy; like a chit chat-lover Sagittarius or an open-minded kinky Gemini.
He won’t stay with you more than a month if you are a Cancer or a Libra who seek for love and affection.
Tip: try to let him believe he is free -even if that it’s just an illusion!

If he is a Pisces: he loves warm hugs so, give them to him; just don’t over do it! Avoid being a burden…just be there for him every time he needs you! He would be loyal to you as long as you are Taurus that will bring him back to earth whenever he needs to or a sexy Scorpio that can read between the lines. He might cheat on you though, if you are a little more selfish such a woman Leo or Aries could be.

Times when you could hear a romantic compliment like: “You have the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen,” the minute you step your foot in to a bar have long passed. Nowadays, men have difficulty expressing their feelings. It is very rare for a man to use words to show you that he likes you. However, we have a great weapon to understand if a guy likes us. It’s called body language. So, here are the first signs, or better say, erotic signals, that will help you understand that a man has fallen for you at first sight.

Signal 1: He raises an eyebrow. If his impulsive reaction when he first sees you is to raise abruptly his eyebrows, it means that you’ve got his attention! Congratulations!

Signal 2: He faintly opens his mouth. You can’t stop looking at him and finally he looks back at you. Have his lips moved? Maybe faintly opened? He might not resist to your charm no more!
 
Signal 3: He tries to get your attention: Does he believe that he is the center of the world? If he doesn’t, why does he act like he does? Don’t worry; if he starts overreacting, like talking louder, or trying to be really descriptive when he tells a story (interesting or not but who cares) he’s just trying to get your attention. So, he’s trying to make a difference. Finally, if he changes his seat to can see you better, you know you’ve got him!

Signal 4: He cares about his appearance. Guys are not like us. They don’t care how they look, especially when they are already outside, drinking beers with their buddies. So, if you catch him straightening his shirt or combing his hair with his fingers, it doesn’t mean he is weird, it means that he wants to look good for you.

Signal 5: He won’t stop staring at you. Don’t start feeling uncomfortable. His purpose isn’t to see if you have a few extra pounds on your hips; he wants to make sure you know he is interested in you.

Signal 6: He sits “offensively”. What does this mean? He slightly opens his legs (as much the opening of his shoulders). His puts his fingers in his belt and inclines his head towards you.

This is the last signal you can get from him before you can start impressing him with your marvelous self.
Ready? Fight! The games have just begun

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Put These on Your DO-NOT-Do List!
As women we're often brought up to believe we have to be perfect to find the man of our dreams. That's rubbish. I know because I was one of the women who strived for perfection for years. It didn't get me the man of my dreams. It did make me miserable though. I wasn't being myself.

Here's a list of things you shouldn't be doing in an effort to make a man fall in love with you:
Cater to his every need. There's a great chance that if you do this - cater to every whim of a man, he's going to stick around. But it's not because you are the woman for him, it's because you'll do anything he wants. NEVER cook a man dinner every night. NEVER do his laundry if you are dating. NEVER clean his apartment for him and NEVER run over to his place simply because he's feeling frisky.

Change your appearance for him. If you wear pink lipstick and the man you are dating says he prefers red, don't convert. If you do you are showing him that you are easily manipulated. Men like a woman with her own mind. Don't change who you are just because there's something about you he doesn't automatically like.

Act like his mother. Don't treat any man you are dating like a child. This means no calling him all the time. Don't ask him where he's been if you haven't heard from him in a while and never tell him to button up his coat if it's cold outside. He already has a mother, he doesn't want you to be one too.

Assume he knows what you want. Men can't read minds. Their minds also don't operate the same way yours does. If you expect a man to know what you want from him, you'll always be disappointed.
If you want to get a man to sit up and take notice of only you, you need to understand

how to become irresistible to him.

They say that if you are smart, beautiful, charming and most of all, if you believe in yourself, you can have any man you want. Then again, are these characteristics enough to keep him? If you are not sure about it either, here are 10 tricks that will help you to make him your dog…
 
• Make him jealous.
This is an old trick that never goes out of fashion. When you go out with him, be always well dressed; many other guys are going to be staring at you, for sure! Don’t be afraid to show your fabulous self off; talk to his friends and don’t hesitate to flirt with other men a bit.

• Sorry, I have plans.
Do not be always available for him. Show him that you have many other things going on in your life; he is not the center of your world. On the contrary, you have many friends to please and much work to do.
 
• Don’t answer all his phone calls
Even if you are home, let the phone ring for a while before answering it. Sure, you can make up some excuses to justify why you didn’t answer immediately. You can tell him that you were in the middle of something. If he just calls once and then he stops, don’t buck up to call him back. Let him wonder: “is she home? Is she out?” Sooner or later, he will call again.

• This woman is a mystery
Let him believe that. It’s true that men get more excited with mysterious women. And it’s easy for you to be one of them. Just don’t tell him much about your past; when he asks, answer him with the question: “are you always that curious?” Don’t bring him to your house from the first dates and don’t tell him what you do on Wednesday evenings (you may go to the beauty parlor but let him believe that you are an FBI agent).
 
• Don’t get mad at him no matter what
If you want him to think of you as an independent woman, act like one. Don’t demand anything from him. Don’t ask him where he goes and with who, if he doesn’t tell you first. Don’t get mad at him because he is late. This will spoil your image, and instead of keeping him, you will lose him.

• This weekend belongs to my girlfriends
Don’t forget that the most important people in your life are your friends. So, try to spend some weekends with them. This will remind him that his is not the center of your life plus you will have fun for sure. After all, you see him every day, but you haven’t gone out with your girlfriends in so long.

• I know everyone in town
Make him believe you are popular. This is easy. Take him to places to hang out regularly. Everybody will know you there; so, you will feel comfortable, you will feel famous and he will feel like he has gone out with a celebrity. Everybody wins!
 
• How gay is your gay friend?
It’s always helpful if you have a gay friend who makes your boyfriend believe that he might be bisexual. Tell your gay friend to drop hints about how great you look and how easily some one could fall in love with you. Reliable trick, always works!

• Compromise? No, thanks!
Do not say always yes to him. And do not compromise right away. It’s not only better for you to play hard to get, but there are some things you don’t want to give up for anybody, including him. So don’t.

• Want him to be your dog? Be his kitty!
This should be rule one. Men may like beautiful, powerful and independent women, but a coy smile will make them beg for you. Read Marilyn Monroe’s biography and start acting it out!

How To Make Him Fall In Love With You… Truths And

How To Make Him Fall In Love With You… Truths And Tricks
 
Be yourself!
The first rule to make him fall in love with you is to be yourself. If he will love you for something, let that be your special character and your extraordinary mind. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. Don’t do anything that isn’t you. He’ll find out that you are faking as soon as you’ll be tired of pretending to be his dream woman and start being yourself. What will happen then? He might not like what he sees; he’ll feel betrayed, and he’ll probably run from you. After all, you do have enough self respect to be loved for what you really are, don’t you?
 
Be confident!
Being yourself alone isn’t enough. You also have to believe in yourself. Many women remain single because of their low self-esteem. I once met a girl that wasn’t that pretty, but she claimed that she could have any man she wanted. She told me, “It doesn’t matter how you look, it matters what you think of yourself.” Later that night I met her boyfriend. They were on a long-term relationship and they seemed to be happy together. This woman was acting like she was wearing an invisible crown; and it was working.
Are you too shy and don’t know how to “promote” yourself? Here is a tip: think about what your good parts are. Do you have a great humor? Then use it! Guys appreciate humor as mush as girls do!
 
Do not overreact!
When you like someone and you want to make him like you too, it’s very easy to make a fool of yourself. Don’t be too loud or too invisible; don’t laugh for no reason, don’t say anything that pops into your head. That usually happens when you are too nervous about what he’ll think of you - there is no reason to be so stressed. Just relax, take a big breath and act like he is one of your friends.
 
Look gorgeous!
First impressions are always important. Not that personality and confidence don’t count, but looking gorgeous whenever he gets to see you, will make your life a lot easier. If you are one of those girls that can’t tell the difference between eyeliner and concealer, put your face’s fate in to your girlfriends’ hands (and makeup kits)!. She will make the best of the beauty God blessed you with!
 
Tricks:
Be friendly - Smile and compliment him
The first step to make a guy like you is to get close to him. Who can resist the company of a friendly and happy face?
Have you ever noticed that although men compliment us a lot, we don’t do the same? Make the difference. Tell him how handsome he looks. He won’t see it coming, plus, he’ll understand you are interested (keep in mind that most of the times, guys don’t have a clue that we may like them). Jean Giraudoux said about compliments: “When you see a woman who can go nowhere without a staff of admirers, it’s not so much because they think she is beautiful, but because she has told them they are handsome”.
 
 
Listen to the boys!
I don’t imply that all men are the same, or that all see the same way, but it’s always good to take some good advice from the boys. Ask your friends if their girlfriends said or did something they liked, or hated. When you learn about common mistakes girls do during dates or during a relationship, just try to avoid doing them!
Play hard-to-get!
This is an old trick that never goes out of fashion! Make him jealous;

don’t answer all his phone calls

, and don’t be always available for him. Hang out with other guys too - let him believe you have many admirers. Men are competitive by nature, so he’ll fight for your attention. As soon as he does, he’ll start wondering: “Why am I jealous? Am I so interested in this girl?” You’ll know you have won his heart…
 
Play on your turf!
Invite him over to your place for a cup of coffee or a movie. You will feel very comfortable if you meet at your house. There are many things you can do
if you stay indoors

. What’s more, you can invite him to hang out with your friends. They are the people that know how to make you look even cooler than he already thinks you are! They are always in the mood to say something nice or tell some awesome stories about you.
 
 
Find out about him.
To get into his heart, you have to get into his mind first. Find out what he’s made of. Ask people that know him to discover what he likes and dislikes. Do you have something in common? Maybe you listen to the same music, or you both like to play chess. Take advantage of the information you’ve got. Challenge him in to a game of chess or start a conversation about the bands you both enjoy.
Let me tell you a brief story to justify why ‘having things in common’ is so important. I was out the other day when I overheard 3 guys in their 20’s. One of them was saying, “I met this really cool girl I think I really like. She drinks Red Bull too!” The others seemed to agree with him. I stopped and stared at them before I burst out laughing. Excuse me? What does drinking Red Bull have to do with anything? Funny as it is, every detail counts!
 
Get to know his friends!
To win his heart, try to win his friends first. For men, friendship is very important. Take it for granted that he trusts his friends’ opinions, and he faithfully follows their advice. If there is someone that can influence him, it will be his friends. So, the sooner you get to know them and the more they like you, the more possible it is to be with him!

How to Make Him Fall in Love and Stay in Love

How to Make Him Fall in Love and Stay in Love
 
As most women know, it's not difficult to attract a man - to make him think he's in love with you. It's a little more complicated, however, to make him fall in love for keeps. It's easy to wonder if men are even interested in long-term relationships since most of them seem to move easily from one to another. The answer is, most men are interested - it's just up to the right women to make them realize it.
 
It's not just your appearance that counts.
While it's true that a revealing outfit, a sexy look and a provocative walk will invariably attract a guy's attention, it takes more than that to keep him interested. Many women make the mistake of thinking that it is looks alone that make a man fall in love. It's certainly enough to attract him, but falling in love is a different matter.
You already know that no matter how good-looking a guy is, he has to have more to offer than just good looks to keep your interest. Why should it be any different for a man?
 
Set yourself apart
Charm him by being different from most of the women he meets. Instead of being needy and overly sensitive as many women are, present yourself as confident, independent and easygoing. Keep a little mystery going - let him discover something new about you almost every time you see each other. It won't be long before he eagerly looks forward to your every meeting.
 
Explore your common interests
After the initial attraction, you'll need to find ways to form an emotional bond with him. Find out what you have in common. Discuss the things that you both enjoy. Learn what he really cares about and what his most compelling interests are and share those with him. It takes time, but it's only by delving into each other's deeper selves that you'll establish a true emotional connection.
By paying attention to this advice, you'll find that it won't be long before you're able to make him fall in love with you. And more than likely it will be for keeps.
 

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How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You

How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You
 
Avoid getting angry at him for stupid stuff, like hitting you with a ball or teasing you, when he means well. If he hurts you physically or emotionally, then it's okay to be angry.

Compliment him. Guys love this!
Above all, if the guy doesn't love you for your personality, then he is NOT really in love with you!

Never keep hanging on to him when he isn't interested. Men find it annoying when you show up at their house and just won't leave.

Learn to take a hint. If the man starts doing something different while you are talking to him, shut up. Wait until he starts talking to you again or quietly help him with what he's doing. Don't try to force his attention to you.

Don't put him in a compromising position. Men care about how you feel, even if they are not interested in you romantically. Don't force them to answer a question if they look uncomfortable with it.

Be very patient. Men sometimes like more than one girl at a time. (If this is the case then he is not ready for a relationship and should therefore be put in the friend category. Fun to hang around with, but not deserving of the cookies.)

Don't appear/be too easy, and yet don't be stuck-up and snobbish. A man doesn't want to think he's never getting any sex, but he also doesn't want to get it that easy. Guys like a challenge.

Do not get between him and his friends. A man will always put his mates before you, unfortunately you need to accept this, or his friends might think of a way to get rid of you.

Don't say you love him if you don't really mean it, they might become obsessive. Also, don't say those three little words until you reckon he loves you too.

Don't EVER cheat. If he loves you and you don't love him, tell him that in a calm and caring manner. People get hurt when a man's ego gets smacked down.

Be what he needs. Be sure to have that something he cannot live without, you don't have to be pretty to be precious.
Don't put on too much make-up. Xmas trees are not hot. Natural is the best.

Don't get an attitude when you see something on T.V. In fact, don't pull an attitude for any dumb reason. Men think you are immature if you have an attitude.

Respect him if he respects you. Do not shoot down everything he says if he listens to every word you say. This is pretty much both ways.

Don't get mad if he says your sports team is s**t. You will always be more important than sports.
Don't be the jealous girl. Guys hate it and it makes you look like you aren't secure with yourself.

Blush. Or pretend to. It's been scientifically proven that girls who blush when looked at make men fall in love with them.

Don't make him feel worthless by ranting on and on about your exes. If you say what you dislike in your exes, he might be put off, as most men have the same faults, like leaving the toilet seat up or biting their nails.
 
 
Warnings
Don't look like a stalker! Therefore, only tell a few close friends you've been on his social networking site, or better yet, none at all.

Don't change your style too abruptly. It's never good to go from brunette Girl-Next-Door to a total blonde Glamazon. You'll look fake or like a poser.

Be cautious how heavy you are when allowing him to cheer you up (Step 6). For example pregnancy or a stalker ex isn't particularly attractive. Keep it real by complaining about homework or a poorly pet. Guys don't like commitment issues.

Don't be manipulative or use him to make someone jealous. These can backfire very easily.

Don't pretend like everything is okay if it's not. If he really is your man, he'll help you through it. He will understand that you have your bad days, and you need him to help you get through them.